A few nights ago I contributed to an information evening about unschooling.
One of the participants talked about her struggle with the thought of letting go the reins of control over the direction of her children's learning. Her honest contribution to the conversation was invaluable - letting go is a fundamental place to begin in the process of trusting our children.
She wondered what she could do to prevent her from constantly stepping into the lead.
I suggested she take up a hobby.
I was serious.
I'm a very slow knitter but I do enjoy the meditation it brings me - I like the busyness of my hands and the quiet of my mind.
Knitting allows me to sit alongside Ruby and/or Sky with ease and quiet when they are working on something that may be challenging them. It supports me to be available to them and at the same time prevents me from becoming too focussed on what they are doing. It keeps me slightly detached so as I avoid jumping in with my own agenda and becoming frustrated and impatient. It is simple to lay down my needles to give them or the problem my complete attention and then to pick up the needles again when I am no longer needed.
I don't do much knitting but I enjoy it when I do.
Above are my indoor slippers I finished last night.
Wool from an old jersey which we unravelled and washed.
Leather from a skirt I bought at the local $2 second-hand clothing shop.
A simple flower from some scraps of felt.
I like how light they are and the fact that when I wear them I can still feel the floor under my feet.